But know you can’t
Life is full of challenges and can be down-right hard sometimes. Those difficulties are often exacerbated by our own responses to negative situations. In a day-and-age where we are asked to consume affirmations for breakfast, always bring our A-game, and give 110%, what happens when you fall apart and just want to body slam someone?
This episode is about a female co-worker who walked into a job, came on like gangbusters, and refused to back-down. I did well until about 30 minutes into a badgering conversation. And then, once someone gets up my nose, I have a hard time not sounding defensive when all my regular tactics fall apart.
Listen to parts 1 & 2 of Dealing with Annoying Co-Workers with Chris Templeton of Oh, The Stories We Tell.
Chris has some thoughts on how to create space between the stimulus (the bully) and the reaction (my annoyance) that will help me stop my day from getting highjacked by a meanie.
Ever Been to “Little Me” Land?
Chris Templeton’s model of Oh The Stories We Tell is a tool to help you identify those little conversations that run around in your head — especially when you are annoyed with a situation. Those stories that attribute (usually) negative characteristics to a situation or a person get in the way of complete and balanced understanding. They then potentally interfere with a good resolution or outcome. Chris calls that being in “Little Me” land.
Using this tool, the more I was able to separate myself from a pushy co-worker, the better I was able to deal with her. That didn’t come overnight, though.
Listen to the final discussion in Parts 3 & 4 So, Do Bossy Co-Workers Win?